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A Word On Waiting For LOVE

Over the following weeks, I'll be adding the topics in the list. They represent the most common stops along the way. 

For those of you who want to jump ahead, the plain text to all sections is located here: https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-49.html 

However, it's far better to wait and read the completed sections, with text and graphics. After all, that's what I'm famous for, illumination by juxtaposition, and you wouldn't want to miss out.

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Once this series is loaded, you'll be able to click on each individual topic in the table above to reach a page with both text and graphics.  Because some browsers don't allow click-on embedded links, I give you the option to either click on the link itself to reach the topic, or copy and paste the link into your browser window.

With Love, as with all things, Patience is a virtue. All the sections will be on the server over the next few weeks.

Thank you, all of you, for your patience, encouragement, and support. I couldn't do this without you. 

I love fan mail!  Gratitude and love are two sides of the same coin; where you feel one, you'll find the other.  

As Antoine de Saint Exupery told us the Fox said to the Little Prince: "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye." 

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 I hope this series is enjoyable and useful to you!

Bisous!

Debra Spencer

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  3  Find A Common Interest 

Remember  

"awakening"  

is an awareness    

of the tension  

held    

by    

opposites.  

It's thus ironic that many people try to resolve this tension   

by finding people   

as much like themselves  

as possible.  

Of course it helps to look for people  

with whom you share common interests  

and beliefs   

but that's not always the best answer   

to balancing your own needs.  

What you are really needing is complementarity.   

The problems at this stage also seem to be aggravated   

from believing you are permitted only a few primary sources for Love in your life;  

it's hard to keep these tensions balanced.  

For example, western culture Men are allowed to love their jobs and their families,  

and the family dog  

but also loving their hobbies  

is pushing it.  

And yet all growth that matters  

comes from holding  

the tension between opposites,   

enduring it  

long enough  

that it becomes something greater  

than its' parts.  

It's worth  

the struggle.  
 

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Thanks for reading.
 
Best Wishes,
Debra Spencer

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