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 I hope this series is enjoyable and useful to you!

Bisous!

Debra Spencer

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  6 Make An Impression

Make An Impression.   

As Mary Poppins said, "Never judge things by their appearance."    

Whenever you want to make an impression,   

you usually want to make a good one,   

because you're intention is to be accepted.   

If you just want to be noticed,   

that's a different story,    

because in that case, you're wanting recognition,    

not necessarily acceptance.   

It's one thing to appear approachable,    

it's another thing entirely to stand out in a crowd.    

These are very different goals  

and intentions;    

don't confuse them.     

All of this is, after all,    

supposed to be fun.    

Making an impression    

is not as obvious    

or as easy    

as it seems.    

Sometimes, familiar approaches   

don't work in this situation;    

you have to improvise.    

Men usually mention or display their incomes,    

while women are instead watching the man's manners    

and how often he does laundry.     

It's more productive to consider that making a successful impression   

depends on whether or not both of you can meet each other's needs.  

You won't discover this complementarity    

 if you're only intent on finding out whether or not the other person can meet your needs.     

You won't find out if someone is grateful for what you have to offer until you offer it!    

The most loveable people are those who pay enough attention to what we appear to need that they can then offer it to us;   

 in other words, they're interested in helping us solve our problems, not theirs, and within their own means.  

This may seem easier to do when there is lots of money,    

but expensive inappropriate inconsiderate impersonal gifts are a total waste because they're useless.  

It is not easy to give appropriately 

but it's well worth the effort.    

Nobody needs more waste.    

Water the plant only as much as it needs to grow safely, and no more.   

 

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Best Wishes,
Debra Spencer

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