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Suit Yourself™ International Magazine #56: Guide To Love 8 Come When Called

  

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Suit Yourself™ International Magazine #56

GUIDE TO LOVE Continues.....

Section 8:

  Come When Called 

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Bisous!

Debra Spencer

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8 Come When Called

There are always surprises on the bumpy road through life.    

 

There's only so much we can do    

 

alone.     

 

That's why we need friends.     

 

We need friends for those times when being told  "Be patient" and "This is just a test"     

 

makes us go ballistic.  

 

 

Relationship    

 

and friendship    

 

mean very different things    

 

to different people.  

 

People have fundamentally different ideas about this,   

 

and very different core expectations about friends.     

 

Despite these differences, friendship is an equal energy exchange. Win-win scenarios are possible.  

 

It helps to clearly communicate in a straightforward way, upfront, what you can give, and what you expect to receive. 

 

Be flexible, and don't presume your choices are obvious or important to others.  

 

 

Fealty, commitment, dedication, and involvement are the four fundamentally different dynamics creating relationships.

Their premises are distinctively different, they aren't fungible, and they're deep topics.  

 

I'm just pointing them out here.  

 

Fealty involves agreeing to a mutually beneficial exchange of protection, aid, dependancy, or service. 
 

Fealty "Come when called" requires reciprocal but independent action.  

 

Commitment involves a pledge to a binding long term obligation on which others are dependent, and to agree to be held accountable for the result.  
 

Commitment  "Come when called" requires long term focused expression.  

 

 

Dedication involves selfless devotion to a cause deemed important, often working without credit to gain patronage and support. 
 

Dedication  "Come when called" involves active long term inspiration. 

 

 

Involvement is active participation by assuming a role in a necessary circumstance, condition, or consequence. 
 

Involvement "Come when called" requires assimilation.  

 

Whenever you discern a real need, find some way to help,  

 

because, as the saying goes, "There but for the Grace of God go I."   

 

Help isn't necessarily physical; any spontaneous demonstration of genuine caring is helpful.  

 

For example, listening attentively, an art where practice makes perfect,

 

is helpful even when you don't have a solution to offer, even when you don't speak the same language.  

 

Never underestimate the power of Love; it is present in any genuine sharing, and in prayer.  

 

As Sister Corita Kent once said,  "A responsible person is one who responds." 

 

 

Friendship comes from offering yours freely to any being who values it.

 

Maybe you're sixteen and they're sixty, or they're six and you're eighty. Maybe they walk on four legs and you use a cane.  

 

It's irrelevant.  

 

Friendship begins with a single act of no-strings kindness.  

 

Applied consistently, friendship grows better over time.  

 

 

Don't wait for permission.   

 

Demonstrate through some action that you're willing to help in whatever way they value.

 

Ask them what they find helpful and then help in that way; offer what you can.  

 

Don't try to impose your own way; that's not help, it's imposing your will.   

 

Freely giving means no strings, no conditions, and demonstrates that you support them, regardless of their lessons.  

 

 

When simple and reasonable help is asked of you, recognize you're on trial.

 

They're assessing you, so help, immediately, if not sooner.  

 

It's true that exploitation assessments use this same step, but their stench is repugnant, not subtle. 

 

Nobody needs "friends" whose "help" always involves some benefit to themselves at your expense.  

 

 

Friendship is not about convenience. It's about being of genuine service to others and as a result, knowing your own life is worthwhile.  

 

Don't just show up, sit down, and eat all their food.

 

Vote "Present".  

 

 


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Thanks for reading.
 
Best Wishes,
Debra Spencer

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Suit Yourself™ International's GUIDE TO LOVE

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction 

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-49.html

The Awakening

 https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-50.html

Understand Your Needs

 https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-50.html

Find A Common Interest  

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-51.html

Announce Your Intentions  

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-52.html

The Hunt Or The Chase

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-53.html

Make An Impression

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-54.html

Offer Your Services

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-55.html

Come When Called

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-56.html

Mind Your Manners

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-57.html

Make A Move

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-58.html

The Attachment

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-59.html

Lay Down Ground Rules

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-60.html

The Lost Cause Impossible Situation

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-61.html

You're Never Too Young Or Too Old

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-62.html

Never Forget; Get Your Picture Taken Together

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-63.html

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