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Suit Yourself™ International Magazine #62: Guide To Love 14 You're Never Too Young Or Too Old

  

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Suit Yourself™ International Magazine #62

GUIDE TO LOVE Continues.....

Section 14:

  You're Never Too Young Or Too Old

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 I hope this series is enjoyable and useful to you!

Bisous!

Debra Spencer

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14 You're Never Too Young Or Too Old 

 

 

You're never too young 

or too old,

 

too thin or fat, too stupid or smart, 

 

too different, too anything, for Love. 

 

 

Love is both a binding and energizing force, 

 

infinite, and resistance is futile. 

 

 

Love never comes in the same way twice. 

 

Each time Love comes, it's different, 

  

 

and each time, it's precious. 

  

 

 


No matter what your circumstances, 

 

or who you are, 

 

when you keep an open mind, you can find an open heart. 

 

 

Love is always available to those who are willing to make the mutually sustained effort 

 

of holding the tension between opposites, 

 

long enough to benefit from the process.

 

 I know many couples whose attitudes allowed them to surmount remarkable challenges. 

 

They wanted to do it.  

 

Doing this successfully even once is like discovering chocolate; 

 

you'll just want to do it more.

 

 

Can Love cure loneliness? 

 

Of course it can. 

 

Much of the loneliness endemic to our culture is due to limiting options. 

 

When you limit your options, you limit your chances for Love. 

 

When you limit Love, you limit Life.

 


Carl Jung had this to say on loneliness:
"As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part, do not want to know. Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." 


Grandparents and grandchildren relate to each other through different roles than parents do with their children, 

 

and as a result, grandparents and grandchildren often get along much better than parents do with their children.  

   

 

Yet our culture doesn't take advantage of this fact, and the elders in our culture are not the ones teaching our young. 


 

Today, many parents disapprove of their children playing with anyone a different age. 

 

Only someone the same age and status as their child is deemed "appropriate". 

 

So much for apprenticeships! 

  

 

So much for gaining the perspective required to live a life!  

 

Everyone, especially while growing up, needs the perspective of an older friend who isn't one of their parents. 

 

In the past, grandparents filled this role, but today, grandparents are often in short supply. 

Restricting a child's play to only children of the same age and kind restricts their explorations and knowledge of their world, and puts braces on their brains, hearts, and minds very early. 

 

This narrows and skews their perspectives. 

 

As they grow up in turn, they extend these restrictions outwards into their culture, and in turn, exclude interactions between people of different types and ages, 

 

and as a result, the elderly are excluded from active life. 

 

The elderly in our culture are considered as having nothing to offer, 

 

when considered at all.

 


As you age, you're supposed to learn something. 

 

You're supposed to acquire some awareness of your needs and how to meet them, 

 

and as a result, be more adept at making relationship decisions. 

 

It's ironic that instead of expanding your relationships as you age, our culture restricts your relationships, and trusts you less and less to make decisions, just as the culture does when you're very young. 

 

The elderly are not supposed to play with the young, in spite of their age difference being the very thing that could benefit them both the most.

 

 


Different physical ages experience subjective time very differently. 

 

 

When you're young, subjective time passes relatively slowly. 

 

Septuagenarians and octogenarians, on the other hand, live "dog years";  

 

seven subjective years are passing for every single countable year, 

 

and their subjective experience of time is that time passes very quickly.  

 

They often astound their families by moving in with people they've "just met".  

 

By that age, they've reorganized priorities, and their concerns lie in entirely different directions than those who are younger. 

 

Nobody that age wastes time or guilt over being happy; 

 

they focus on what can be done. 

 


Everyone benefits from the perspective of a friend who is not their age. 

 

It is very difficult, if not impossible, to find Love by restricting its' appearance to rules, confined to the inside of a very tiny little box. 

 

Love is infinite.

 

Love ignores boundaries. 

 

All you need do is recognize Love when it comes, 

 

and because Love is different each time it comes, 

 

therein lies your challenge. 

 

 

One of Love's wonders is to teach you to perceive the unexpected. 

 

Old and young should be trusted to choose their own friends, 

 

and to play appropriately with whomever, 

 

or whatever, they like. 

 

 

That's how we learn 

 

to let in Love.


 

 

Thanks for reading.
 
Best Wishes,
Debra Spencer

 


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Suit Yourself™ International's GUIDE TO LOVE

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction 

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-49.html

The Awakening

 https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-50.html

Understand Your Needs

 https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-50.html

Find A Common Interest  

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-51.html

Announce Your Intentions  

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-52.html

The Hunt Or The Chase

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-53.html

Make An Impression

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-54.html

Offer Your Services

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-55.html

Come When Called

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-56.html

Mind Your Manners

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-57.html

Make A Move

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-58.html

The Attachment

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-59.html

Lay Down Ground Rules

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-60.html

The Lost Cause Impossible Situation

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-61.html

You're Never Too Young Or Too Old

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-62.html

Never Forget; Get Your Picture Taken Together

https://suityourself.international/appanage/magazine-63.html

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